So… out of the blue you get that dreaded ‘its not you its me…,’ ‘I just don’t feel a connection’ ‘I’m not ready for a relationship’ kind of BS text and you are left there in bits.
Having experienced many Parents’ evenings in my 8 years of teaching, the knack of switching from teacher, to counsellor, to mum, to advisor has become a pretty nifty and swift skill.
For many of us, Valentine’s Day can feel the day when rejection and imperfection comes and smacks you in the face, as painful as the belly flop feeling we are all familiar with.
This area really depends whether you are the doer of this kind of behaviour or the receiver.
Breadcrumb – A meaningless text message or email from someone you have either been seeing or your ex, sent just to get your attention but carrying no actual meaning.
Ghosting – When a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they’re dating, with zero warning or notice before hand.
The definition of being catfished is when someone is using a fake identity to lure someone in, likely to be on the internet. They may also use this to ‘troll’ people; to throw insults their way online, hidden behind another persona. Under new UK legislation trollers can face up to two years in prison for this serious offence.
Aha! The beloved ‘frenamy’, a term derived from the cult classic Mean Girls: a mishmash between a friend and an enemy. A hater masked as a friend. We have all experienced these people.They appear to be your ride-or-die friend, but then, out of nowhere, they deliver a comment that cuts you like a knife.
Whether it’s sending them a pop-up message when you know you shouldn’t or giving them a lecture that will unquestionably press their buttons, I know that anxious, unsettling feeling: ‘will they/won’t they respond’ is all you can think about.
Hearing the ‘ding’ on your phone, wanting to look but not wanting to look.That wave of excitement when it’s the one you’re dating or disappointment when it’s just your mum’s daily ‘How are you? X’ (sorry, Mum).