For many of us, Valentine’s Day can feel the day when rejection and imperfection comes and smacks you in the face, as painful as the belly flop feeling we are all familiar with.
While card factory’s and supermarkets profit from this day, unintentionally sensationalised by St Valentine, there are so many of us who dread this day. It can be that feeling of loneliness- a reminder the second you wake up, check the phone; turn on the tv or radio and I guarantee you something will be there to ensure you don’t forget the day. The. It’s going to school, stepping into work blah blah blah- and you are quietly imploding.
Today- what can I say. It’s heartbreaking how society contributes to making those struggling feel even worse- or is it we allow it to. Adele famously wrote the song ‘someone like you Whilst she was recovering from the break up with her ex. She internalised her pain and asked questions like why me? I heard you’re married now and you’re dreams have come true- guess she gave you things I didn’t. Through writing she managed to use her pain of heartbreak and enable herself to move ‘through’ her very difficult time. In her writing she internalises his rejection and then places it on herself, deeming herself not worthy. Not sure Adele and the term not worthy make sense.
And that’s it, even the successful, the beautiful the everything’s struggle when it comes to emotion, particularly love. I have been contacted by so many of you who have, or are going through heartbreak and we can support and guide you through a very hard time.
Write how you’re feeling
If you feel angry, escape that moment through changing your temperature and taking a shower or go out and see a friend. Cry. Take today- the sun WILL shine again. Lx